Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters
By: Erica Komisar, LCSW
Narrated by: Wendy Tremont King
Length: 8 hrs and 12 mins
Release date: 4-11-2017
Publisher: Highbridge, A Division of Recorded Books
"What is vital for both the short-term and long-term well-being of your child is your emotional presence."
-Erika Komisar, LCSW
"Bonding is putting the pieces together and attachment
is gluing them in place."
You can't Let Go if you don't Attach
If I was about to have a baby, I would first want to read Erica Komisar's book, BEING THERE. If I follow her guidelines, I can avoid raising my baby to become a 4 year old with "an amygdala stuck in the on position", or worse. Komisar describes how to achieve healthy attachment in a soothing narrative as well as by example. She describes in scientific terms a baby's brain development and it's reactions as it relates to attachment. She debunks motherhood myths and spells out the daunting costs of being absent. If I was about to have a baby... I would keep BEING THERE as a handy reference! Which is why it has become part of my standard baby shower gift.
After I narrated BEING THERE, Tantor Audio sent me HEALING FROM HIDDEN ABUSE by Shannon Thomas in which she proposes the LACK OF ATTACHMENT as the possible root of narcissist, sociopath and psychopath behaviour (see Book Report). Aha! The two books link and suddenly I am engaged in a baby-raising curriculum! I have something to say at the next baby shower. I have cred. And then... months later... Tantor Audio sends me FROM MOM TO ME AGAIN by Melissa T. Schultz, a guide for moms after the kids are launched into their own lives. The empty nest. Boy time flies. The kids are gone already? Just like Komisar, Schultz points out that, if there is SUCCESSFUL ATTACHMENT, kids have an easier time moving on with their lives. Moms... not so much.
When Tantor Audio sends me the romance DIVORCED, DESPERATE AND DEAD by Christie Craig, I graduate with honors because I am able to recognize that J.D., the kid on the wrong side of the law, the disconnected, emotional and conflicted kid that the chiseled-featured Detective Cary Stevens is trying to find... suffers from not having a Mom who was there for him.
"a major social issue of our time: the effects of maternal absence on our children"
-Erica Komisar, LCSW
This Book Report is dedicated to the loving memory of my mother. She was there for me.
-Wendy Tremont King, narrator